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# Self-Care Month: How to Avoid Two Sneaky Stress Starters

_Written by Kimberly Gledhill, MSW, the lead college counselor for Arizona College of Nursing, Tempe campus. _

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September is self-care awareness month, a reminder to prioritize health habits
for physical and mental well-being. These healthy habits have been drilled into
us: exercise, get enough sleep, and eat a healthy diet. But are there behaviors
and habits that are self-sabotaging your ability to prioritize your health and
wellness?

Whether you feel it in your head, stomach, shoulders, or chest, we all know the
weight that stress can carry. As a higher education counselor who supports
nursing students pursuing a demanding career, stress relief and self-care are
common topics of discussion in my office.

![stress free image](https://arizonacollege.edu/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/stress-free-image.jpg)![stress free image](https://arizonacollege.edu/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/stress-free-image.jpg)
While some stress can be healthy and act as a motivating catalyst to complete
the day’s work, too much stress can significantly impact mental and physical
health. What happens when stress sneaks up on us, and we don’t know what caused
it? Self-care is often the first thing to go. You won’t have time to practice
the behaviors that keep you mentally and physically healthy, let alone schedule
a massage as a treat.

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Here are two sneaky stress starters and how to stop them:

## The “Yes”

Every action comes with a choice – a “yes” or a “no.” While some choices elicit
a more extensive cost-benefit analysis, others are simple. We say “yes” to
completing necessary tasks to avoid consequences. But what about the “extra”
choices? It can be easy to get caught up in a never-ending cycle of “yes.”
Attempting to be supportive, collaborative, or to please others, we suddenly
find ourselves overwhelmed with too many obligations to fulfill in a day. Saying
yes causes us stress and does a disservice to those we are attempting to help.
If we add too many things to our plate, the plate breaks and everything on it
falls.

**How to stop it**

Practice consideration and boundaries. I am not suggesting that “yes” be omitted
from your vocabulary or that you neglect necessary duties. However, if you
identify that a significant cause of your stress is too much, “yes,” I challenge
you to take a few extra minutes of consideration when given a choice. Ask
yourself these questions:

- If I look at everything I must complete in this time frame, do I have enough
  time to do this?
- Will saying “yes” to this take away from my self-care?
- What are the benefits and challenges of saying yes?

If you cannot commit to an extra “yes” without compromising your mental health
or the effort given to your obligations, set boundaries with yourself and
others. It may not be easy initially, but setting boundaries can lead to
healthier relationships, better decision-making, and improved wellness.

## 󠀁**Procrastination**󠁿

Procrastination is an easy trap to fall into – we anticipate that a task will
take us two hours, so we wait until two hours before it’s due to start it.
Planning the day and managing your time is an effective tool to complete tasks
efficiently – waiting until the last minute to begin those tasks can cause
stress in a couple of ways:

- We can become preoccupied with the task before even beginning it.
- We can become worried that we will not finish the task once we start it.

Chronic procrastination causes us to become caught in a perpetual cycle of
feeling like we are “catching up.” While some work well under pressure, this
constant tension of completing things just before the deadline can take a
significant toll on our physical and mental health.

**How to stop it**

![procrastination image](https://arizonacollege.edu/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/procrastination-image.jpg)![procrastination image](https://arizonacollege.edu/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/procrastination-image.jpg)
Time management and self-discipline are crucial tools for combatting
procrastination. Get a digital or physical planner and plan out your week –
complete with appointments, meals, breaks, tasks, exercise, and even sleep.
Planning and managing your week gives you a good idea of how much time you
really have and provides you with an appropriate amount of time to complete
tasks.

If you believe something may take an hour, give yourself two hours, just in
case. A tip I always give my students is to allow 1-2 hours of “buffer time” at
the end of each day. This is free time with nothing planned, so if something
takes you longer than expected, you have extra time to complete it. If you
complete the tasks early, you now have time to do what you enjoy, which helps
you live well.

As you work towards recognizing and reducing your stress levels, have grace with
yourself. None of us are superhuman – a finite number of hours in the day
exists. Be realistic with yourself and have grace as you grow. If your stress
levels are reaching an unmanageable level, formal support and resources such as
therapy are available. Resources are available, and you are not alone.

Don’t let sneaky stress starters add additional anxiety that keeps you from
taking care of yourself. Permit yourself to say no when your plate is already
full. Give yourself a realistic amount of time to complete tasks. Practicing
these habits means you have more time to practice self-care habits, and maybe
you can fit in that massage after all!

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![Self Care Month Featured Faculty](https://arizonacollege.edu/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Self-Care-Month-Featured-Faculty-1.jpg)![Self Care Month Featured Faculty](https://arizonacollege.edu/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Self-Care-Month-Featured-Faculty-1.jpg)
Kimberly Gledhill is the lead college counselor for Arizona College of Nursing,
Tempe campus. In that capacity, Kimberly provides resources to support students
in their academic pursuits and their mental wellness. She strives to foster a
positive community that can help students achieve their educational and career
goals.

Prior to joining Arizona College of Nursing, Kimberly provided therapy and case
management to juveniles involved in foster care and the justice system. She has
also collaborated with the Sheriff’s Department to provide therapeutic services
and transitional care to those involved in the justice system. In addition to
being highly skilled in support services for higher academia, Kimberly has
developed training curriculum to promote cultural sensitivity and inclusivity of
the LGBTQ+ community.

Kimberly obtained her Bachelor of Arts in Sociology with a Concentration in
Social Work and Master of Social Work degrees from California Baptist University
in Riverside, California. When she is not on campus helping students, she enjoys
cooking and hiking.

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_Information in this blog post is accurate as of September 19, 2023._

**Categories:** Health & Wellness